Dear Mocha,
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. The past year has been shit. I found out he cheating on me and when he got caught his said. "I'm a man. What do you expect"
So I left him. He doesn't care about me. Then two weeks later I found out I was pregnant.
I wasn't going to tell him but I feel he should know. Now he wants to get back together.
One side of me wants to have a solid family foundation for the baby but I know he won't be faithful and I'll always be questioning when he goes to the store or anywhere else.
Should I keep my family together or be a single parent?
Dear New Mom,
1st congrats on the life you are about to bring into the world.
My answer is simple, babies do NOT hold families together and they certainly don't stop men from cheating.
Children also pick up on dissension.
You don't have to be a single parent. You two can co-parent in separate homes.
He may be a GREAT father even if he sucked as a boyfriend.
All that matters is that he is there for the child.
I wish you the best of luck.
Mocha
Dear New Mom,
Damn.. That's wild crazy.. But in your case you may want him more than the family.. And just because you're prego doesn't mean its gonna change how he feels about you, especially since he stated that he is a man "so what do you expect".. Do what you have to for your child cause the guy you dealing with is obviously selfish as shit.
AGREED w/both of you 1113%. A child definitely does not help "MAKE" a relationship. Nor can it fix a past one. What it can do is, mask a prior problem and make you see something that really isn't there. She should just worry about raising that child. Co-parent and go from there. If she decides to give the relationship another try DOWN THE ROAD... that's fine. But don't do it because of the child, do it because you want to do it.
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